Blog 13 - Death: A Necessary Evil (Wild Card)

Frank Cuiffo Jr II; my grandpa. Meme Dion; my great-grandma. Michael Pasarelli; my great-uncle. Ray Ray Cuiffo; my cousin. And so many more people that died too early. There are so many people that die each day. It is obviously more painful when you know and love that person, but regardless, death is the saddest thing I think anyone deals with. Death is a necessary evil. Don’t get me wrong, I hate that I had to lose so many people that I care so much about, but what would we live for if we thought this life would never end? I agree that death brings meaning. It may be a hard concept to grasp, but it is true. If we thought that people would always be around, we might not treasure their presence as much. It gets me so upset to think that people can be taken from us at any moment. My great-grandma, my grandpa, my great-uncle, they were all taken away from me when they were at an older age. But how can taking away my 18 year old cousin Ray Ray be justified? He died because of someone else’s mistake, and now he is gone forever. Not only was he the most amazing football player, but he was a very smart guy. He knew everyone, and he had so many friends and people that loved him dearly. And then one day one of his friends that decided to drink took his life. I am still not at the point where I can even consider being forgiving toward that ‘friend’ of Ray’s. It should not take a person’s life to teach a kid a lesson. Now, not only does my whole extended family and everyone that knew Ray have a burden on their shoulders and a weight in their heart, but that stupid boy who made a stupid ass decision is going to waste his life away wondering what would have happened if he didn’t drink, if he didn’t kill my cousin, if he woke up that morning and thought a little differently, would everyone have been spared the tears? I think that if I ever had that burden on my shoulders, I would make a drastic change. I would move far away. I would change myself for the better. I would dedicate my whole entire to making what I did right. And when it cannot be made right, I would keep trying. I don’t know how someone could be that stupid, but unfortunately it is not just him. I am sure that a lot of people know someone who lost a life to a drunk driver. Or in general lost a life. We all lose people, it is inevitable; it is fate. It is something that will never stop happening to this world. I could die tomorrow. I could die in two minutes. So I want to make this life worth it. I don’t want to be remembered as “young teen from small NJ town dies early,” I want the chance to change the world before I die. This thought is only possibly if you truly know that death really is a necessary evil, and that you should not take something so precious as a life for granted.