It's doubtful that there's anyone in the world who hasn't been angry. Some people become angry often; others, seldom. Some are good at controlling their anger. Others are terrible at it. What makes you angry? Is there one primary thing, or do many things make you angry? Can you give examples? Are you pretty good at controlling your anger, or not so good? Do you use strategies to control your anger, such as counting to ten before you speak or strike, or are you just naturally able to control it? Have you ever "lost it," and uncontrollably said some words or struck out at another person? How did you feel after your outburst? Relieved? Guilty? Ashamed?
Finally, what advice would you give to other people that would help them control their anger?
Write about it.
To ask me to name one thing that makes me angry is a silly question. Unfortunately, there are a lot of things that make me angry. If I had to give an example, about 90% of Central Regional High School makes me mad. My parents make me mad. Boys make me mad. I get upset easily, and I have a very short temper. Controlling my temper has never really seemed to be an issue; just walk away, take a breather, and deal with it when I cool down. But as of lately, my anger has made me explode. Recently, I got in a fight with my mom. Not just a screaming match, per usual, but a freak-out-fist-throwing-bitch-fit. I will tell the story as it happened, and I am telling you now I am not making excuses for what I did. She walked in my room Monday night with that typical ‘Mom’ attitude she seems to always have. She started lecturing me about all the things I do wrong, how I am not organized, my room is a mess, I need to get to sleep earlier because I’m starting to get bitchy, etc. To be completely honest, I had no problem with the things she was saying, because I agreed! I really am not organized enough, that is why I end up staying up until 11pm on school nights. My room is very messy, considering you can’t see my floor. I should get to sleep earlier, because I do turn into an uber-bitch. It wasn’t about the things she was telling me to do, it was about the way she said them. I haven’t heard her say something in a nice way to me in I don’t know how long. I got fed up with being treated like shit, and we started fighting. I don’t even recall hitting her first, but I just remember my dad sprinting upstairs and pulling me off of her. This kind of thing had never happened to me before, and I was shaken up to say the least. I literally couldn’t stop shaking, and as they took my car keys and my phone and walked out, I realized how horrible I am. Getting treated without respect made me angry, but in more of a way I was sad. I then got to talking with my sister who moved out a few years ago. She told me how messed up I was, which I didn’t really need to hear, but we also started talking about the way my mom is. She is like no other parent I’ve even been around. And then when I really think deep about it, I think about my friend’s mom, who calls her baby when she cheers her on at field hockey games, loud and proud. My mom doesn’t even go to my games, and I don’t remember when the last time she called me baby was. I wish so much we could have a good bond and be close, but it’s just not there. That makes me angry.
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Blog 1 - Friends, in Numbers
Is it important to have a lot of friends? Does the number of friends you have mean much to you?
What do you think: is it better to have, say, ten friends who consider you "kind of" friends, or one friend you consider a good friend?
Have you known some people who seem to have a hundred friends, and others who have a few? Do you think that people with many friends are happier than those with few?
Why do you think some people accumulate a lot of friends? What makes them do it? And why do you think some people focus on just one or two friends? Do you think they'd like to be like those individuals who have many friends, or do they think differently about what a friend is?
Why do you think the way you do about friends?
Write about it.
Friends mean the world to me. To a lot of people, friends are the only thing that keeps you sane. There is a big difference, though, between having hundreds of friends, and having a couple best friends. In my opinion, having fewer friends is better. Friends that you aren’t that close to aren’t really important because they are not the people that will have your back. They are not going to be there when you need them the most. They might be there to vent to, but they are the kind of friends that you never know if what you say will be repeated or not. Best friends, on the other hand, are ride or die and they will always be at your side whether you are sad or happy.
I feel like when you see a girl at Central who has hundreds of friends, she is the type of person that always has drama in her life. Girls, I’m pretty sure we all know, can be heartless backstabbers and drama-starters. So if you had one hundred girls that were ‘friends’ in a room, there would be a fight within minutes. I am the type of person that, yes, I am sociable and I have lots of people that I call my friends, but I have about five best friends that I tell everything to. I would never even consider telling all my problems to my other friends because they might have best friends that they end up telling everything to, and then everyone knows everything about your life. And who wants that?
I think some people accumulate a lot of friends, not on purpose, but because subconsciously they like the drama that a lot of people start. Some people want attention. And others want to feel liked. The people that have fewer friends hopefully realize that they have true friends that will always stick around, but it can be doubtful. In most cases, you want what you can’t have. For instance, the people with a lot of friends want a smaller amount of best friends. And the people with a few close friends want more.
My opinion on friends is that the closer they are the longer they will be in your life. I do call a lot of people my friends, but there is a huge difference between friends and best friends. Everyone has to have a 2a.m. person. That means that you can call that person at 2a.m. or really any time that you need anything, and that person will talk to you at all hours of the night and day if they have to. Some 2a.m. friends even will come to you at crazy hours just because. That is the kind of friends I like to have. I don’t need hundreds of friends to make me feel good, I just need my ride or die chicks, and I’m set. There is nothing better than being with people that truly care about you and you truly care about them. Best friends may not talk every day, or even every week, but you know that once you connect it’s like no time has gone by at all. That is the kind of things I look for in a friend.
What do you think: is it better to have, say, ten friends who consider you "kind of" friends, or one friend you consider a good friend?
Have you known some people who seem to have a hundred friends, and others who have a few? Do you think that people with many friends are happier than those with few?
Why do you think some people accumulate a lot of friends? What makes them do it? And why do you think some people focus on just one or two friends? Do you think they'd like to be like those individuals who have many friends, or do they think differently about what a friend is?
Why do you think the way you do about friends?
Write about it.
Friends mean the world to me. To a lot of people, friends are the only thing that keeps you sane. There is a big difference, though, between having hundreds of friends, and having a couple best friends. In my opinion, having fewer friends is better. Friends that you aren’t that close to aren’t really important because they are not the people that will have your back. They are not going to be there when you need them the most. They might be there to vent to, but they are the kind of friends that you never know if what you say will be repeated or not. Best friends, on the other hand, are ride or die and they will always be at your side whether you are sad or happy.
I feel like when you see a girl at Central who has hundreds of friends, she is the type of person that always has drama in her life. Girls, I’m pretty sure we all know, can be heartless backstabbers and drama-starters. So if you had one hundred girls that were ‘friends’ in a room, there would be a fight within minutes. I am the type of person that, yes, I am sociable and I have lots of people that I call my friends, but I have about five best friends that I tell everything to. I would never even consider telling all my problems to my other friends because they might have best friends that they end up telling everything to, and then everyone knows everything about your life. And who wants that?
I think some people accumulate a lot of friends, not on purpose, but because subconsciously they like the drama that a lot of people start. Some people want attention. And others want to feel liked. The people that have fewer friends hopefully realize that they have true friends that will always stick around, but it can be doubtful. In most cases, you want what you can’t have. For instance, the people with a lot of friends want a smaller amount of best friends. And the people with a few close friends want more.
My opinion on friends is that the closer they are the longer they will be in your life. I do call a lot of people my friends, but there is a huge difference between friends and best friends. Everyone has to have a 2a.m. person. That means that you can call that person at 2a.m. or really any time that you need anything, and that person will talk to you at all hours of the night and day if they have to. Some 2a.m. friends even will come to you at crazy hours just because. That is the kind of friends I like to have. I don’t need hundreds of friends to make me feel good, I just need my ride or die chicks, and I’m set. There is nothing better than being with people that truly care about you and you truly care about them. Best friends may not talk every day, or even every week, but you know that once you connect it’s like no time has gone by at all. That is the kind of things I look for in a friend.
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